The Art of Seduction: Part 1

May 13, 2007

No, I’m not talking about the korean movies with the same title (FYI, it’s a good movie.. go find it). I’m talking about the real art of seduction, or, for you guys, the art of flirting.

Disclaimer: This blog is my very own perception and opinion on the subject. I do not intend to state that I’m a master / guru when it comes to girls (I had my share of downs and rejections too you know). I just want to share my thoughts and 2 cents.

I had some friends who has been facing problem when it come to girls. Some I could understand, ok, their look is not actually great and all (more on this later), some though, has looks, characteristic and all, but I just don’t get it why are they having problem with girls. One always said that it’s impossible to understand a girl. It’s not impossible, it does take an extra effort though, but it’s not impossible. After all, they worth the extra effort don’t they?

First thing first. If you are about to love someone else, of even like someone else, you’ve got to LOVE yourself FIRST! This is crucial. You have to be able to feel good about yourself, you have to be able to see what’s your positive points. I don’t want to sound like one of those "self-help-book" who tend to be annoying at times, but it’s true, you’ve got to love yourself before you love the others.

I won’t believe when you said that you have no positive points. One gotta have one, even a little. I have seen a great looking girls (gosh, she was e hot topic among the guys) and she went out with a not-so-great looking guys. Why? Beats me, but that does mean one thing, that girls do not only like you because of your look. Your character is what made you up. Ok, I won’t deny the fact that there’re girls who take looks into great consideration, but why do you stick to this kind of girl? What’s gonna happen if she saw a better looking guys? Bye bye? You get my point. Look does matter, but it shouldn’t be a major role.

As for me myself, I don’t believe in the theory that when you are in love, look does not matter. My partner will be the one who I took out for dinner, took out to meet my friends and relatives, of course I want them to at least look presentable. She doesn’t have to be drop-dead-gorgeous, she could shine in her own, simple way. You though, have to be able to balanced it. You can’t expect your girlfriend to dress up for you and looking all stunning, if you went out to meet her friend in tshirt, short, and slipper.

Back to my main point. Like I said, and I’m gonna say it one more time. You have got to love yourself before you love others. I look at my friends that has trouble with girls, and I see they are so focused on the idea that they are not worthy, they are not good looking and many others. You can’t expect a girl to fall in love with you because they pity you right?

FYI, I had my share of rejections too. During high school, I wasn’t exactly a popular guy. But, because of that, I had my share of relationships, ranging from 2 days (super short, I know) to 3 years (my longest). I had lots of ups and downs, I’ve seen many types of girls, and knowing them. I don’t think I ever regret any of my past relationship, since with every single one, it gave me experiences. My current one is going great though. She’s just stunning, with a great characteristics and she does show her affection to me a lot.

Have a great weekend peeps. Wait for The Art of Seduction: Part 2.

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