The Art of Seduction Part 2: Saying “hello”

May 17, 2007

This is the second part of my "Art of Seduction" series. Read part 1: Loving yourself here.

I’m not saying that I’m an expert in girlology, with these posts, I’m just sharing my two cents, my opinions, and my experiences about relationship that I’ve had in the past and current. If there are any girls who are offended with my post, do criticize and let me know. I was hoping that these posts could start up a healthy discussion of some sort.

Continuing on the topic.

You found the one girl you like, you would like to ask her out, but you don’t know how to start, what to say, what to do. Sounds familiar? It should. Been there, done that. Multiple scenarios suddenly fills your head, should I say this? but what if she doesn’t like it? what if she said no? what if she dislike me? what if she thinks I’m ugly?

STOP! You might be thinking too much that Godzilla would have woken up AGAIN, destroyed a few cities, and put to sleep all over again before you get to ask her out.

I admit that every girls are different, each with their own personalities. However, most of them would appreciate it so much already if you dare to make the first move of, suprise suprise, simply said hello. Yep, simply saying "hello" and starting a conversation can be considered a big move already. Please, don’t bother with those "common" pick up lines such as "..You must be an angel because you are the most beautiful thing I’ve saw tonight.." or similar. Say that and she’ll look at you as if you are the weirdest-creature she saw that very same night.

After the first hello, it will get much much easier. Be casual and talk about simple things, like the weather, the party, whatsoever. Get to know her first.

I’m sorry guys, but admit it, we tend to boast, whether we realize it or not. DON’T. Don’t tell her how you think your friend are looking stupid (but not you). Don’t tell her how you think the club you’re in is the coolest club (when it’s actually your first time). Don’t try to show off your muscular body (trust me, if it shows, she’ll noticed it whether you show it off or not). Do say you don’t know if you don’t. Do say you didn’t notice if you didn’t. It’s easy to say "be yourself" but it’s hard to actually put it to practice. It’s important to pay attention to her though. From there, you should be able to initiate a humanly conversation. From there, you could see whether the two of you clicks. Whether you have things in common. Whether you could relate to each other. Whether she find you interesting. At least that much. The rest involved more conversation, phone calls, and XL-Free-100SMS-abusing session.

Dear girls, it is NOT a sin to make a move on a guy. If you start to chat first, we don’t think that you are easy-to-get. If you said hello first, we don’t think you are an aggressive bitch. If you SMS first, we don’t think you are oh-you-want-me-so-much kind of girl. How would you feel if a guy made a move on you? at the very least, flattered, yea? Same with us guys, we would feel flattered. If things doesn’t go to well from there, that’s too bad, but at least we tried. A friend of mine told me that she’s dying to talk to this guy, but she’s to proud of herself to call first. I got annoyed and told her to call him.

Like I said in my previous chapter. Balance is important in a relationship (more on this next time). Those times where guys have to make the first move has ended. Guys, if you like her, ask her out, what do you have to lose? Either its a yes or a no, at least you take your chance.

When I was studying in Aussie, at one night, I went to a club with my mates. Over there, I saw one of the waitress that serves our drinks. An Australian. She’s not bad looking, pretty cute, and there’s just something about her that makes me want to know her further. It does took me awhile to dare myself to talk to her. In the end, I ordered a lemonade water, and when she serve the drink to me, I asked her to go for coffee or something the next day. She said sorry but she can’t, because she’s attached, and so I said "cool.. no worries".

Oh well, at least I’ve tried. If I didn’t, the curiosity would made me sleepless that night, regretting as why I didn’t dare to talk to her.

.. oh, and Godzilla might woken up again, destroyed a few cities, and put to sleep all over again before I get to ask her out.

Tip Of The Day: How do you understand girls better, the easy way? Stop reading FHM for awhile and snatch your sister’s Cosmopolitan magazine, start reading it and learning from it. It works.

Disclaimer: This blog is my very own perception and opinion on the subject. I do not intend to state that I’m a master / guru when it comes to girls (I had my share of downs and rejections too you know). I just want to share my thoughts and 2 cents.

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